Writers Block and a Good Story

I’ve been having a serious writers block lately! You know, the one where you have this HUGE GIGANTIC story to tell, or writing to get done, and then your fingers hit the keyboard and nothing. So disappointing. Time and time again for the past two weeks it’s happened. I’ve tried to switch it up a bit but nothing. You see, I write my posts somewhere between 3:30-7 a.m. The house is quiet. Nothing is stirring. I can sit and pray over the post. I can have my coffee and bible out. I can just be with me. Be with my thoughts and prayers and ideas of what I want to accomplish with a said post. But lately I sit, and sit, and sit some more and nothing comes. It’s frustrating! So frustrating!

So, here I sit on yet another morning, same as the last it feels, and it’s 3:30a.m. I have my coffee, which is smooth and delicious by the way, and my bible open to Psalm 50:15. This is what I want to say:

I struggle. Everyday I struggle. I struggle with self confidence. I struggle with past pain. I struggle with not being good enough. I struggle with addiction. I surrender everyday to God. I have to. I once thought, ” i surrendered it, why isn’t it going away?” You have to sometimes surrender it daily, for a week, maybe a month, and sometimes even years, before you see the fruit of that prayer! I have been there. I have struggled with abuse from my past going on 20+ years. I pray it away but it still affects some aspects of my life. It’s hard to overcome. It’s a mountain in my life. One I know I can’t and won’t overcome on my own. Jesus said he gave us the power to cast mountains into the sea and sometimes I have to do that every single day. Sometimes it’s all I can do to pray “God strengthen me for this day, to do your will, to be your hands and feet, and to somehow in the end GLORIFY you.”

I have had seasons in my life that were a train wreck. Finances amiss, relationships on the rocks, stillness from God no matter how much I seek his face and pray. I’ve also come to learn over the years of walking with Jesus that as much as He tries to shield us from all the bad sometimes it gets in. And other times we invite it in without even knowing. But I do know also, that there are a few things I can do to bring comfort to me. One is pray. Praying not only for myself but for others. Really lifting others up. It’s one way that brings me peace in a situation. It takes the focus off of “poor me” and puts it on God and others. Another way is digging in to scripture and learning from it. God didn’t put his breath to the Word for us not to be learning and living what he says. I’ve learned that when I’m having an issue I go to scripture and find what it says about that issue. Psalms has 150 chapters of struggling and overcoming! I’m sure we can all find something to relate just in that one book of the bible alone.

My life is not my own anymore. Not since I surrendered it at the foot of the cross to Jesus. No matter how much I believe, this life will always throw me curve balls. Always try to get the upper hand over me. Keep me in my struggles, keep me reliving the pain. Keep my battling addiction. But I’m here to tell you that I HAVE HOPE! Hope in a risen savior. Hope in his word. Hope in his presence. I don’t have to sit still and do nothing. I can rise up and overcome, because I know the one who overcame it all.

I leave you with this scripture:
Psalms 50:15 & 51:1-4
and call on me in the day of trouble and I will deliver you and you will honor me.

Have mercy on me, Oh God, according to you unfailing love; according to your great compassion,blot out my transgressions.
Wash away all my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin.
For I know my transgressions, and my sin is always before me.
Against you, you only, have I sinned; and done evil in your sight….

Blessings,
Tiffany

My Convictions aren’t Your Convictions

Let me start by saying that what works for our family, what we deem appropriate for our family may or may not be something you’d do or instill in your family. That doesn’t make either one of us right or wrong. It just makes us different and that’s ok.

Telling the truth, Gods truth, the truth we know without a shadow of a doubt, is hard. It goes against everything the WORLD is screaming at you. It’s a struggle everyday not to fall into the temptation the world throws at you. We face it. We deal with it head on. We make hard choices. That’s what we, as a family, feel we are called to do. We feel we are called to raise up our children against the grain. Against what schools says is ok. Against what teens say is ok. Against what Hollywood says is ok. It’s something we’ve been convicted over time and time again. It’s hard though. It’s a battle everyday to let that one little thing slide….. Like wearing immodest clothes, or listening to what I call crap music. But it’s a battle we must face head on.

We do things different around here. We don’t do cell phones, even for the 15 year old. We don’t do internet access. We don’t do short shorts. We don’t do a lot of tv including such as Disney Channel. YES I know, it’s for kids. But the content of the shows don’t line up with the values we try to teach them. We don’t do public school. We don’t let our kids stay the night places. There’s a lot we don’t do. We do talk with our kids about the whys and what are reasoning is. We do pray with them about things that we don’t agree on. We do try to teach them that it’s ok to be different. It’s ok to stand up for what you believe in, IF you’re doing it in love. It’s ok to be the only one who feels a certain way. If God lays something on your heart it’s ok to stand by that!

Recently we had a falling out of sorts with some family. I feel that it’s just another way the enemy uses us and each other to try to step away from the truth we have known to be. Our family, extended family, doesn’t agree with some of the decisions we’ve made for our family. That’s ok! No really it is. I know what God has placed in our hearts. I know how God wants us to raise our family and nothing anyone can say or do is going to change that. I have to answer to HIM and only HIM when this life is all but gone. What we feel is appropriate decisions for our family is NOT the popular one by any means. It never is! But we try to convey our convictions is love. We don’t judge you for your convictions or decisions. We are all different. We’ve all been called to do something different. That doesn’t mean we condemn you because our calling is not the same. That also doesn’t mean we have to agree with it. We have to do what WE feel is best within our four walls in our home. IT’S OK!!!!!!! My convictions aren’t your convictions! I know that. I’m ok with that.

So stand your ground saints and do what God has called you to do. Speak the truth in love and stand by what God has placed in your heart. Don’t let the enemy take away even for a second the truth God has placed in you. Stand firm in your faith. Don’t waiver. For the riches in heaven are more than anything this world will ever have to offer you.

BLESSINGS,
TIffany

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The Joys Of Pregnancy

So I really didn’t fall of the face of the earth! I promise! I’ve been right here at home dealing with this pregnancy. I say it like that because that’s how I feel right now, that I’m just dealing with it. It has been a rough couple of weeks. Actually, that is a dramatic understatement! I’ve been horribly ill, thinking I’m dying, balled up on the couch kinda ill. Morning sickness is a joke! It’s all day sickness non stop for the past 14 days! AHHHH, but I’m feeling much better today so I write to you!

It started off with just the little bit of nausea that’s to be expected with pregnancy. Then, I go to a “confirmation” appointment and the nurse tells me it’s better to stop taking my Celexa meds. Ok, she’s a nurse, I’ve never had to take them with the other pregnancies so I stopped. BIG NO NO!!!!!!
What I thought was just a bit of morning sickness turned into violently throwing up, chills, sweats, no energy, completely feeling exhausted all the time, sleeping 18 hours a day. After praying and crying and screaming for help a friend suggested some ginger tea. I took myself to the store, which was a huge deal, and got some. It did help with the nausea a bit but the trade off was my acid reflux was horrible with drinking it. Then a girlfriend brought me some ginger essential oil. God love her. It too helped a bit. Then another girlfriend brought me some peppermint and lavender oil because at that point everything smelled funny to me and it was driving me crazy.

I stayed in my pathetic state for almost 2 weeks before my husband, God love him he just wanted to make me better, researched my symptoms and VIOLA! I had every symptom of withdrawals from the Celexa! I started taking it again immediately and it took about 3-4 days but I’m much better! I took it upon myself to research whether it was safe to take during pregnancy and it is one of the ones listed to take. Until I see my OBGYN, the real thing, not a nurse, I’m going to continue to take it. I’m not sure how many others have stopped taking meds like that before but it was my first time and definitely my last. If I choose or no longer feel the need for Celexa I will definitely ween myself off of it. Quitting cold turkey was brutal and I wouldn’t wish feeling like that on my worst enemy.

I think I can officially say I can relate to someone coming off a drug addiction. That’s exactly how my body, spirit, soul felt. It was just like the movies. Mom laying on the couch bundled up with that nothingness look in her eyes! That was me for 2 weeks!!!!!! My whole family suffered. I cried more than I ever have in that time frame. Even my mom asked me if I was ok. She said honey your eyes are so empty. I just told her the truth, I feel completely empty!

I want to thank my friends and family for praying for me. And God especially for giving my husband the discernment to look up my symptoms. Who knows how long I would’ve laid and suffered…… probably until my next check up which is 3 weeks away!!!!! The thought of that sends a chill down my spine.

I just wanted to let you all know that I was still alive and hope to get back to writing, sharing, and encouraging you all! Thank you for sticking around!

Blessings,
Tiffany
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New Years Resolution: You are Here

Jeremiah 29 :11 tells is for I know the plans I have for you, declares The Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.

You’ve made your New Years Resolutions by now I’m sure, or at least you been thinking about them for a while now. What you’d like to change, what you’d like to accomplish, what you’d like to do with your new year. I haven’t made any resolutions. I’m resolved not to. It’s not that I don’t think they are good to have, I just have never once in all my life completed one so what’s the point.

I want to live in the HERE! Right HERE! Right where I am. Right where God has placed me. I’m all for change, but sometimes, change isn’t in the plan. Sometimes God wants us to stay put right where we are. Whether it’s in our job, our home, in our finances, in our relationships, in our church. Sometimes HERE is where we are supposed to be.

Where is your HERE? At a job you seem to hate but it brings home a paycheck so you stay? Maybe, just maybe God put you there to show others the love of Jesus. Maybe that’s exactly where He wants you. Maybe for the now, that’s your HERE. Maybe it’s without a job. Relying on unemployment or some other means to sustain you financially. Maybe God is teaching you to trust Him in all things in your HERE. Maybe your in relationship ruin with friends and family. Maybe God is teaching you how He can restore your relationships. Your HERE is leaning on Jesus to comfort your hurt and the hurt you’ve caused.

I’ve been in your HERE. I’m struggling with some of the HEREs right now. I’m not dwelling on them though. I’m merely living through them with you. I’m relying on Gods word to strengthen me and teach me. Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring. Proverbs 27:1. I can do all the resoluting I want but if God wants me in my HERE that’s where I’m going to stay. I’m not suggesting NOT planning for the future, or not trying to make changes in your life. I’m simply stating that if it’s in Gods will for you to be in your HERE, embrace it. Look at it as a blessing. Look at it as a way for God to help you prosper. For God to give you your hope and future.

“Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Matthew 6:19-21

I’m looking into 2013 with a different view from most. I’m looking at it as if this is where I’m supposed to be. This is what I’m supposed to be doing. This is where my HERE was meant to be.

So, where is your HERE? Comment and share where God has placed you. Where God has blessed you. And what God is doing in your HERE!

Blessings,
Tiffany

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You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart
Jeremiah 29:13

Seek Him today!!!!!!!!

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Expecting Baby Number 6!!!!

So the time has flown by and I haven’t had a post in almost three weeks! I miss writing. I miss sharing. I miss being here, with all of you guys.

I found out on the 13th (the Dudes 5th birthday) that Baby #6 will be here sometime in August! The news is exciting and scary all at the same time. I LOVE babies! That I can’t deny but adding another member to the family is a bit scary. Things are going so well right now and I’d hate to throw that off but God will somehow make it all work. He always does.

While all the girls are pretty excited, The Dude is not. He’s been the baby for 5 years now and he knows it and somehow I think he knows what will come when baby arrives for his mommy and me time. I’m sure he’ll adjust just fine. Plus, we have about 34+ weeks to prepare him for his new role as BIG brother!

Another concern is the room. We are literally BUSTING out of this house. 1200 sq. feet an 7 occupants makes room tight. The market in our area is not good and there will be a few things needed to be done to sell the house if we choose to go that route. Then the other part of my brain says, we can stay cramped a few more years and then kids will start moving away for college and such and there will be more room then we know what to do with. OH, the decisions!

I really couldn’t of asked for a better Christmas gift this year than the gift of being a mother again! I love how God has in trusted me to keep all these little ones. What a blessings!

Well, that’s the news for now! Sorry this post is a bit random and not well written. I really haven’t been myself lately:)
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Blessings,
Tiffany
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Children and Chores

DISCLAIMER:I am by no means a parenting expert. My views and opinions are just that, my own. What works for us, very well may or may not work for you….

You know you’re treading on thin water when you feel led to put up a disclaimer before writing:) I did that because I don’t want any of my readers to think they are not raising responsible children after reading this by thinking I have it all figured out. I SURELY do not! I just know for us, as a family, this is what God has led us to. Now that we got that out of the way….. Let me share my heart!

A few years ago when my kids were oh so little and cute, mom did ALL the work. Minus the few, pick up your toys speech, I did the brunt of the work. Now that my kids are getting older, we have instilled a few good things to help the house run smoother.

Everybody does chores. Yes, even the Dude, who is just about to turn 5, does chores. He vacuums when he wants to, we don’t push that. He empties trash cans, and brings up the trash cans to the house weekly. He also knows to clean his room.
We do our chores twice a day. I’ve never understood how families have a weekly or monthly cleaning routine. My house needs “CLEANED” every single day.
Each week mom redoes our chore chart which hangs on the fridge. I divide it up so that each girl gets two chores a day. One big and one not so big. Along with that they are responsible for cleaning up after themselves and keeping bedrooms tidy by the end of the night when dad comes to pray and tuck them in.
Our chore chart looks like this:

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The lighting stinks today:( sorry for the not so great picture. You get the point though.

I picked up this board at Target a couple of years ago and I LOVE IT! It has 4 different colored star magnets which is perfect for the 4 girls. There are also 8 lines to write in chores which is also perfect! I used some sticky velcro to adhere it to the fridge so I could easily take it down and put it back up when needed. I work on it on Saturday night for the next week. The kids know where it is and they just have to follow there stars to know what they need to do that day. Mom then just fills in the blanks and does the extra stuff each day:) Which, when raising a houseful, is plenty enough work. Plus I do all the cooking…….

I have worked along side each one of the kids when it was time to learn a new chore. Not, I showed them once and expect it to be perfect. I still have to check chores and remind them of how we clean a certain area. Usually the bathroom is the most forgotten chore. Who likes to wipe up pee anyways;) I don’t blame them there but it has to be done.

I’m a teaching momma. Not just that we homeschool, but when they were all knee high to a grasshopper and asked questions I would not just tell them the answer. I would show them the process and let them practice doing it. Say, coffee for instance. They would ask how to make a pot of coffee. How much stuff goes in, how the water comes out and so forth. I would then take that opportunity, while they were interested, to show them and explain to them the ins and outs of making coffee. Now I can ask anyone of my kids to make coffee and they know how. Same with sweeping, dusting, moping, cleaning windows, you name it they eventually asked about it and I took the time to show them how. I can’t see how else they were supposed to know how to do it. I feel like I can’t expect my children to sweep the floor properly if I’ve never worked side by side with them teaching them.

I expect my kids to have a happy good attitude towards chore. No they don’t skip around yelling “hooray it’s time for chores” but I do expect them to work willingly and effectively at them. We should want to serve others with a happy heart and making sure our home is clean for ourselves as well as guests.
“whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for The Lord, and not human masters”
Colossians 3:23

Here’s another shocker……. you ready? We don’t pay our kids to do their chores! NOPE, not one cent! Now, we do sometimes give them a monetary incentive to go above and beyond their normal chores. Like a quarter for making mom and dads bed. Or $10 for mowing the lawn, but as far as the normal day to day stuff we don’t pay. Who is going to pay them to keep their OWN houses clean when they are grown? No one! And I’d be doing them harm in my book by rewarding them for helping run the house THEY live in. Now, don’t take me for a slave driver that sits around eating bon bons while my kids clean like Cinderella . We all work together to make our house a home and haven for us. Twice a day and it take maybe 30 minutes each time to get the house in tip top shape.
If not, our house would look like a train went through it and there would be no clean dishes or laundry to speak of in a matter of days.

I could lay out what each chore is and how it is to be done but that is not necessary. I think if you look at the chart you can see what we do each day. I hope you’ve enjoyed reading and please leave a comment and tell us how you deal with chores and your own kids. I’d love to hear from you all!

Blessings,
Tiffany
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Weekly Memory Verse Week 26

It’s another week! Praise God for a fresh new week. The past is done, yesterday is gone and all we can do is live for today! I’ve got to be honest with you all…. we didn’t do very well memorizing last weeks verse. The kids questioned what God-breathed meant and though I explained it numerous times and looked the verse up in different translations to read to them, they just didn’t get it. It was an off week and all we can do is try better this week and get Gods word in our hearts.

That’s my little confession of the week! Here we go with this weeks verse:

It is better, if it is Gods will, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil
1Peter 3:17 (NIV)

This might be one of the hardest things in our own FLESH to do. How unpleasant it is to suffer for doing good! We want to know why? We want to know what we did wrong? We want to question the very God that called us to such things?

I have to tell you that as a christian we sometimes do suffer from the world even when we are doing good. I have someone in my life that no matter how I love them, no matter how nice I am to them, no matter what I do for them, it’s always met with resistance. Even though my heart is genuine, the wrath of said person always seems to fall on me. I get hurt. I get upset. I question. I don’t understand. I sometimes wonder why God has placed such a person in my life. I know though, through this verse that God intended for me to do his will in loving that person, no matter how hard it is to do. No matter how many times I get hurt. No matter how I try to keep the peace, I am to LOVE.

In our lives it is sometime very hard to fight the flesh. I sometimes want to snap back and be mean and vicious! I sometimes want to hurt said person the way I’ve been hurt. Then a little nudge from the Holy Spirit reminds me, “it is better, if it is Gods will, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil” Won’t you join me this week in memorizing this scripture? It’s a good one to hold on to when you’re suffering through something for Christ!

Blessings,
Tiffany

I’d love to have you comment on what God is revealing to you this week! Leave a comment below!