Daughter Moms

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I have a daughter mom! In case you don’t know what I’m talking about, it’s a daughter that acts like mom, can be mom, takes on to much responsibility like mom. I’ve got one of those and it’s my own fault. Before you go jumping to conclusions, like I just let her run the house while I sit around and eat bon-bons, let me clarify what I’m speaking of.

Dexter is our oldest at home. She’s 14 1/2 years old, and in the 9th grade. Since she was 3 she has always been more mature, and more responsible than anyone her age. I don’t know if I expected to much from her as a wee one because I was young or what but that’s how she was and still is. By the time she was 6 she had three younger siblings at home, all just 14 months apart. She learned very quickly how to fetch diapers for mom, get a washcloth if needed, and so forth. That has morphed into something I never imagined.

By 8 she had learned to change diapers and was happy to do so, so I let her. Never making her, but allowing her to be part of the babies everyday care. She’d hold babies, play with the babies, and sing them to sleep. She was so great! It was awesome to have such a young one so interested in her younger siblings…….. or was it?

At 10 I had yet another baby and this time a boy! She was thrilled and wanted to be at his birth. We agreed that she could come. Maybe that was my mistake, I’m not sure. She developed a bond with her brother like no other! This is where things started to get hard on her. I started allowing her to “take care” of the girls while I took care of the baby. She’d make breakfast, help with getting them dressed and such, and anything else they needed. It wasn’t till recently I actually sat down to wonder why my little girl is such a momma that I realized…… I DID THIS!

At 11 she took the safe sitter course at the YMCA and started babysitting. Not for more than an hour usually. Just long enough for Dad and I to get a cup of coffee, or run an errand without packing up 5 kids. It was nice to have that, but it was too much on my little girl. I realize that now:(

Now, she’s 14 and 1/2, can do every job in the house. She can cook, clean, launder like nobodies business, all while keeping the kids safe and under control. She wears so much responsibility on her shoulders that it’s truly sad. I have depended on her for so long to be my mommy helper that she has no concept of how to shut it off. She will often times correct the children before I do. She often times makes decisions for them before I do. She often times sets the tone of the house, not I.

That is the problem. I have allowed this to happen, to go on for so long. HOW do I change it now? I sit back sometimes and watch her playing with the kiddos or snuggling with them and think, how did I let her become my daughter mom? I’m really struggling to find a way to let her relax, and just be 14. I’ve got to find a way to communicate to her that it’s ok not to be the other mother. It’s so engrained in her at this point though that it doesn’t’ help.

As for me, I pray I haven’t ruined her for her own kids. I pray that I can just let her be a kid herself. I pray God gives her all that she needs to be a sister and not a mother. I pray one day she forgives me for leaning on her at such a young tender age. Until then, I pick up the slack, ask less of her, and hope I somehow didn’t ruin her.

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Blessings,
Tiffany

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Simple Yet Yummy P.B. Fudge

So I found this SUPER EASY peanut butter fudge recipe and since Dexter has been asking me to make fudge I decided to give it a try. I got the recipe on Pinterest of course! but I chose to use just the peanut butter portion. The original recipe calls for making a chocolate layer on the bottom but it was 10:30 at night and I was looking for easy peasy.
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I started by getting out all the ingredients which surprisingly is just 5 things! Butter, Peanut Butter, Vanilla, Powdered Sugar, and Mini Choc Chips. Then I sat the Ipad on a stand and got to work with
this recipe from culinary concoctions

Peanut Butter Layer
8 ounces unsalted butter, plus more for greasing pan
1 cup smooth peanut butter
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 pound powdered sugar
chocolate chips and peanut butter chips to sprinkle on top about a 1/2 cup each
Combine the butter and peanut butter in a 4-quart microwave-safe bowl and cover with plastic wrap.
Microwave for 2 minutes on high.
Stir and microwave on high for 2 more minutes. (Use caution when removing this mixture from the microwave, it will be very hot.)
Add the vanilla and powdered sugar to the peanut butter mixture and stir to combine with a wooden spoon.
The mixture will become hard to stir and lose its sheen.
Pour the peanut butter layer on top of the chocolate layer. Sprinkle chocolate and peanut butter chips and press down to help them stick to fudge.
Refrigerate until cool, about 2 hours.
Cut into 1-inch pieces and store in an airtight container at room temperature for up to a week.
Peanut butter fudge from Alton Brown Food Network.com

It was not only a hit with Dexter but also with my nieces I watch after school everyday:) It turned out delicious!

Blessings,
Tiffany
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The Joys Of Pregnancy

So I really didn’t fall of the face of the earth! I promise! I’ve been right here at home dealing with this pregnancy. I say it like that because that’s how I feel right now, that I’m just dealing with it. It has been a rough couple of weeks. Actually, that is a dramatic understatement! I’ve been horribly ill, thinking I’m dying, balled up on the couch kinda ill. Morning sickness is a joke! It’s all day sickness non stop for the past 14 days! AHHHH, but I’m feeling much better today so I write to you!

It started off with just the little bit of nausea that’s to be expected with pregnancy. Then, I go to a “confirmation” appointment and the nurse tells me it’s better to stop taking my Celexa meds. Ok, she’s a nurse, I’ve never had to take them with the other pregnancies so I stopped. BIG NO NO!!!!!!
What I thought was just a bit of morning sickness turned into violently throwing up, chills, sweats, no energy, completely feeling exhausted all the time, sleeping 18 hours a day. After praying and crying and screaming for help a friend suggested some ginger tea. I took myself to the store, which was a huge deal, and got some. It did help with the nausea a bit but the trade off was my acid reflux was horrible with drinking it. Then a girlfriend brought me some ginger essential oil. God love her. It too helped a bit. Then another girlfriend brought me some peppermint and lavender oil because at that point everything smelled funny to me and it was driving me crazy.

I stayed in my pathetic state for almost 2 weeks before my husband, God love him he just wanted to make me better, researched my symptoms and VIOLA! I had every symptom of withdrawals from the Celexa! I started taking it again immediately and it took about 3-4 days but I’m much better! I took it upon myself to research whether it was safe to take during pregnancy and it is one of the ones listed to take. Until I see my OBGYN, the real thing, not a nurse, I’m going to continue to take it. I’m not sure how many others have stopped taking meds like that before but it was my first time and definitely my last. If I choose or no longer feel the need for Celexa I will definitely ween myself off of it. Quitting cold turkey was brutal and I wouldn’t wish feeling like that on my worst enemy.

I think I can officially say I can relate to someone coming off a drug addiction. That’s exactly how my body, spirit, soul felt. It was just like the movies. Mom laying on the couch bundled up with that nothingness look in her eyes! That was me for 2 weeks!!!!!! My whole family suffered. I cried more than I ever have in that time frame. Even my mom asked me if I was ok. She said honey your eyes are so empty. I just told her the truth, I feel completely empty!

I want to thank my friends and family for praying for me. And God especially for giving my husband the discernment to look up my symptoms. Who knows how long I would’ve laid and suffered…… probably until my next check up which is 3 weeks away!!!!! The thought of that sends a chill down my spine.

I just wanted to let you all know that I was still alive and hope to get back to writing, sharing, and encouraging you all! Thank you for sticking around!

Blessings,
Tiffany
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New Years Resolution: You are Here

Jeremiah 29 :11 tells is for I know the plans I have for you, declares The Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.

You’ve made your New Years Resolutions by now I’m sure, or at least you been thinking about them for a while now. What you’d like to change, what you’d like to accomplish, what you’d like to do with your new year. I haven’t made any resolutions. I’m resolved not to. It’s not that I don’t think they are good to have, I just have never once in all my life completed one so what’s the point.

I want to live in the HERE! Right HERE! Right where I am. Right where God has placed me. I’m all for change, but sometimes, change isn’t in the plan. Sometimes God wants us to stay put right where we are. Whether it’s in our job, our home, in our finances, in our relationships, in our church. Sometimes HERE is where we are supposed to be.

Where is your HERE? At a job you seem to hate but it brings home a paycheck so you stay? Maybe, just maybe God put you there to show others the love of Jesus. Maybe that’s exactly where He wants you. Maybe for the now, that’s your HERE. Maybe it’s without a job. Relying on unemployment or some other means to sustain you financially. Maybe God is teaching you to trust Him in all things in your HERE. Maybe your in relationship ruin with friends and family. Maybe God is teaching you how He can restore your relationships. Your HERE is leaning on Jesus to comfort your hurt and the hurt you’ve caused.

I’ve been in your HERE. I’m struggling with some of the HEREs right now. I’m not dwelling on them though. I’m merely living through them with you. I’m relying on Gods word to strengthen me and teach me. Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring. Proverbs 27:1. I can do all the resoluting I want but if God wants me in my HERE that’s where I’m going to stay. I’m not suggesting NOT planning for the future, or not trying to make changes in your life. I’m simply stating that if it’s in Gods will for you to be in your HERE, embrace it. Look at it as a blessing. Look at it as a way for God to help you prosper. For God to give you your hope and future.

“Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Matthew 6:19-21

I’m looking into 2013 with a different view from most. I’m looking at it as if this is where I’m supposed to be. This is what I’m supposed to be doing. This is where my HERE was meant to be.

So, where is your HERE? Comment and share where God has placed you. Where God has blessed you. And what God is doing in your HERE!

Blessings,
Tiffany

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You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart
Jeremiah 29:13

Seek Him today!!!!!!!!

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